Break Free From The Loop of Not Reaching Your Goals: The Ultimate No-BS Guide

Discover how to break free from the stagnation cycle and transform your goal-setting approach for better results. This insightful guide offers a practical strategy focused on simplifying your goals, committing to daily progress, and understanding the power of singular focus. Apply these principles and begin your journey of focused achievement today. Remember, slow and steady does win the race, after all.

In the fast-paced rhythm of modern life, many of us set ambitious goals for ourselves. Yet, we often find ourselves trapped in a loop of inaction, our dreams fading into the background as we deal with the relentless demands of daily life. Let’s pause for a moment and reflect on the last six months. Did you set any goals? How many have you accomplished? If you’re like most people, you might not like the answer. But, fear not. This is a common pitfall and, more importantly, one that can be overcome. Let’s delve into understanding the ‘why’ behind our stagnation and how we can break free from it.


Understanding the Problem

Day 1 of setting a new goal is usually brimming with enthusiasm. This initial burst of energy can ripple through the first week. But then, inevitably, life happens. An unforeseen event distracts you, a week slips by, and you realize you’ve drifted from your path. Guilt sets in, followed by a futile attempt to make up for lost time by setting additional goals, leading to an overwhelming burden of commitments.

The result? The cycle repeats, except this time, the sting of failure is more acute due to the augmented expectations. As your goals start to appear unattainable, disappointment creeps in. You stop trying altogether, resorting to escapism through entertainment to avoid the pain. The hole of inaction deepens, and the loop tightens its hold.

This pattern isn’t unique to you; it’s a shared human experience. But the good news is that there’s a simple strategy to break free.


Breaking the Loop: A Simplified Approach

It starts with self-compassion. Take a deep breath and allow yourself to pause. Falling behind isn’t a tragedy. It’s a part of the process, and you’re far from alone in this experience. Recognize this and let go of any self-judgment. Now, with a clear mind, think of the most important goal you’ve set for yourself in the past six months. Be realistic about what you can achieve.

Instead of juggling multiple goals, prioritize a single goal. Make it your primary focus for the next few months. If it seems too ambitious, break it down into achievable weekly or monthly milestones. This approach ensures you keep your sight on manageable targets, helping to maintain motivation and focus.


The Power of Singular Focus

Imagine if you had spent the last six months focused on achieving the one significant goal instead of scattering your energy. The sense of pride and fulfillment that would stem from accomplishing this goal would be enormous.

So why not start today and pick a single goal, put all the other ones on the backburner, make the chosen one your top priority, and take it to the finish line. 

Making a goal your top priority means you commit to daily progress. You must work on your goal every single day. If a goal is your top priority, it means that you are dedicating time, energy, and attention to it regularly, not intermittently. The twice a week stuff doesn’t work and will fail. You’ve got to be in it every day, or don’t even bother…

Here’s the hard truth: if you’re not working on your most important goal every day, you’re not working on it enough. Eventually you will skip, and then you will forget. You might think this sounds too demanding or too overwhelming. But think about it. Isn’t it more overwhelming to realize after six months or a year that you’ve hardly made any progress towards what you want to achieve?

The thrill of multitasking and pursuing several objectives simultaneously might sound exciting, but it’s often counterproductive. As the old adage goes, “Slow and steady wins the race.”


The Benefits of a Steady Pace

A steady pace doesn’t just apply to fairy tales or the animal kingdom. It’s a principle rooted in reality, applicable to goal setting and personal growth. When you focus on one thing at a time, you reduce the mental clutter and direct your energy efficiently. This approach allows for deep work, a state where you can produce high-quality results because your brain’s full capacity is concentrated on a single task.

Furthermore, achieving milestones in your primary goal builds confidence and creates a positive feedback loop. Each success fuels your motivation to continue, making the process self-sustaining. It’s not about rushing to the finish line but about the journey, the steady pace at which you learn, grow, and reach your objectives.


Applying this to Real Life

Now that we’ve outlined the strategy, it’s time to put it into action. Write your goals, review them, and prioritize them. Your top contender must be strong enough to make it through the turbulence to come. Does it align with your values and long-term vision? Is it SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound)? Select the goal that resonates with you the most, break it down, and start planning your action steps.

Remember, achieving this goal doesn’t mean ignoring all other aspects of your life. It simply means that in your pool of personal development and growth, this goal has the spotlight. It’s about giving yourself the permission to focus and dig deep, to truly dedicate yourself to something, and to break free from the loop of inaction and uncertainty that’s been holding you back.

Once you get going, you must be aware, almost certain, that you will face robust resistance from external sources, difficult, internal challenges that will require you to change the way you think, and mounting pressure to give up and go back to your status quo. It’s imperative that you envision these challenges because at times, you will have to be your only cheerleader, your own rescuer, and your only source of motivation.



Breaking free from the loop of inaction requires self-awareness, self-compassion, and a shift in strategy. It’s about understanding that less can be more and that focusing on one goal at a time can lead to meaningful progress and satisfaction.

Life is too short to be stuck in a never-ending cycle of unfulfilled goals. Remember, it’s not about how many goals you set but how many you see through to the end. So, pick your goal, plan your steps, and embark on your journey of focused achievement. Slow and steady does win the race after all.


Bonus Section: Examples of Breaking Down Large Goals

A common challenge I see when people are setting goals is that they don’t know where to start. The goal may seem so far that they get paralyzed, unable to get going in the right direction. Below are a few practical examples that should provide a clearer understanding of the concept of breaking large goals into smaller, achievable milestones.


Example 1: Losing Weight

Goal: Lose 30 pounds

Large goals such as losing a significant amount of weight can feel daunting. Do I have to diet for a year? Give up on ice cream? Work out every day? These questions are so heavy that they send us on the wrong path to make our goal manageable. What do we typically do? Extreme diet for a week or two, then complete give up, depression, and reversal.

If instead of focusing on our fears, we focused on the goal itself (losing 30 pounds) and then broke that down to weekly milestones. Simply search google for “how much weight is it healthy to lose every week,” You will find that it’s safe and sustainable to lose 1 to 2 pounds a week. Perfect, if we go with 1 pound a week, that’s 30 weeks, we have our timeframe. Next, when do I measure? Let’s say every Friday I weigh myself to monitor my progress, and voilà, we have a plan!

A weekly goal not only gives you a timeline but also a clear and immediate objective to stay on track. This will help you monitor yourself throughout the week so that you set yourself up for success every Friday.


Example 2: Running a Marathon

Goal: Run a 26.2-mile marathon

If you’re new to running or typically only do short distances, a marathon can seem like an impossible task. Rather than focusing on the full 26.2 miles, create a training schedule that gradually increases your running distance over several months. Start with shorter runs, and add a mile or two each week. This incremental approach not only makes the training process manageable but also helps your body adjust to the increasing physical demands.


Example 3: Saving for a Down Payment

Goal: Save $20,000 for a house down payment

If you want to save a substantial amount of money for a down payment, start by figuring out how much you can reasonably save from each paycheck. If you can save $200 from each bi-weekly paycheck, you would save $400 per month. At this rate, it would take you about four years to save $20,000. While it might seem like a long time, by breaking it down to smaller amounts, you can track your progress and stay motivated. By contrast, deciding not to save because it seems like a long time will guarantee that it will take you longer to accumulate your down payment.



In the grand journey of achieving our goals, breaking them down into manageable parts can make the difference between stagnation and success. The process allows for regular check-ins on our progress, helping maintain motivation, and making the overall task seem less daunting. So, remember to take your large goals, break them down, and tackle them piece by piece. Before you know it, you’ll have achieved what you initially thought was too big to handle.

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About the Author

E. R. Leyva

Author of Life, The Answer. Writing is a process that allows me to capture ideas, to organize them, and to keep refining them over and over until they come together like a jigsaw puzzle, revealing what was previously hidden in plain sight.



  1. Leonardo Acosta

    Excellent article, It’s a timely analysis that is relevant to anyone at any stage of life.

    I think that a very important step to break free from the loop is choose the goal that will be your top priority. We live in a world where the changes are very quickly, it is making our targets obsolete. As the world changes, so too should our goals.

    I look forward to reading more of your analysis on this topic.

  2. E. R. Leyva

    Thanks for the thought Leonardo, glad you liked it! That’s indeed an important point. The exponential speed at which the world changes is making me wonder about what preparation a person needs to keep up with the rate of change.

    This can turn into an entire article by itself. I took it down to give it some thought and maybe I’ll write about it soon!


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